Coffee with Bear



Bear sat next to me this morning—head up, tongue out, giving me one of his classic, unapologetically joyful smiles.
We were just having coffee. Nothing special. No big moment.
Just him. Just me. Just the kind of peace that sneaks in when you’re not performing for anyone.

And it got me thinking:

How often do we overlook the quiet joy of just being ourselves?

We spend so much time trying to impress, to prove, to keep up.
Trying to be more polished, more productive, more whatever the world seems to expect that day.
But Bear wasn’t doing any of that.

He wasn’t worried about being better.
He wasn’t comparing his morning to anyone else’s.
He was just… happy to be here.

And maybe that’s what we’ve forgotten:

That peace doesn’t come from being more.
It comes from being honest.
With who we are.
With where we are.
With what we truly need.

There’s nothing wrong with ambition—but don’t let it convince you that your worth is always somewhere out ahead of you.

Because sometimes, joy looks like sitting still.
Not performing. Not pretending.
Just being. Fully. Freely. Without apology.


So if you needed a reminder today:
You’re not behind. You’re not too much. You don’t have to earn your worth.

The quiet version of you—the one who just wants to sip coffee and breathe deep?
That version is already doing enough.

And if you’re lucky enough to have a Bear beside you… pause and stay a little longer.
Because this moment is the good part.

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