I’ve Been Meaning to Write This

I’ve started this blog a hundred times in my head.

Usually in the quiet moments—after the kids are asleep, after the noise dies down, after a day that tested more than just my patience. The thoughts would come when I was driving alone, or standing on the sidelines of a game, or walking back to the truck after a long day on a job site.

Sometimes I’d scribble a sentence or two in my phone.

Sometimes I’d hear my own voice narrating the lesson I was living.

And just about every time, I told myself: “I’ll write it down later.”

But here’s the truth I’ve come to accept:

Later isn’t promised. And silence has a way of stealing what was meant to be shared.

So this is me, starting.

This blog isn’t a blueprint. I’m not here to preach or posture. I’m just a man who’s lived enough to have something to say—and who’s finally ready to say it. I’ve raised children, rebuilt myself more than once, run businesses, buried people I love, made peace with failure, and stood in gyms for the last 18 years coaching kids who didn’t always believe in themselves until we helped them see who they could be.

That coaching? It taught me everything.

The court has a way of stripping you down to the truth.

Who works. Who listens. Who breaks. Who leads.

And most of all—who grows.

Life’s the same. It doesn’t care about your titles. It cares about your reps.

Not how loud you talk—but how well you listen.

Not how often you win—but how you show up when you lose.

This space—Notes from the Sideline—is where I’ll write it all down.

The things I’ve lived, the things I’m still learning, and the things I wish I’d known sooner.

I’ll write about fatherhood. About leadership. About starting over.

About marriage, business, identity, faith, and what it feels like to show up tired but still show up anyway.

Some of it will be messy. But it’ll be honest.

If you’re looking for filtered perfection, this probably isn’t the place.

But if you’re looking for something real—a quiet voice from the sideline calling you back to yourself—

Then I hope you’ll stay awhile.

I’ve got more to say.

And I’m glad you’re here.



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